The Connection Club™

The Gottman Love Map Exercise

A structured 62-question inventory for building "cognitive room" for a partner's concerns and reality.

4 pages • Gottman Institute

ACT with Love: Complete Worksheets

Extensive workbook based on Dr. Russ Harris's ACT model for managing relational pain.

40+ pages • ACT Therapy

The School of Life: The Couples Workbook

Essays and prompts on navigating the unedited reality of love and ambivalence.

12 pages • Philosophy

Sensate Focus: Step-by-Step Guide

Cornell University's protocol for non-genital and genital touching exercises.

2 pages • Sex Therapy

Dreams Within Conflict: Listener Guide

Exercise to uncover the underlying dreams behind "gridlocked" arguments.

2 pages • Gottman Method

Solving the Solvable Problems Model

Gottman's 5-step model including repair attempts and self-soothing.

2 pages • Gottman Institute

Integral Psychology Couples Workbook

A series of assessments and exercises based on Gottman's "7 Principles."

25 pages • Psychology

The Relationship Wheel Assessment

A visual tool for rating satisfaction across eight indicators of relationship health.

1 page • Assessment

Discover deeper insights about your relationship with research-backed assessment tools.

💕 Pro Tip Take these quizzes together to strengthen your connection. Understanding each other's styles creates deeper intimacy and better communication.

💕 Love Language Assessment

Discover how you and your partner prefer to give and receive love. Understanding each other's primary love language creates deeper intimacy and connection.

20 Questions Both Partners 10 mins

💪 Relationship Health Score

Get a comprehensive evaluation of your relationship across key areas: communication, intimacy, trust, fun, and emotional support.

30 Questions Single Quiz 8 mins

⚖️ Conflict Style Finder

Learn how you and your partner handle disagreements. Discover your conflict styles and get personalized tips for healthier resolution.

30 Questions Both Partners 12 mins

Your comprehensive relationship toolkit — evidence-based guides from leading universities and clinical centers.

💡 Pro Tip These PDFs are research-backed resources from institutions like Cornell, Stanford, and John Gottman's lab. Click any guide to view it directly in your browser — no downloads needed!

The Gottman Love Map Exercise

A structured 62-question inventory for building "cognitive room" for a partner's concerns and reality.

4 pages • Connection

Assert Yourself! Module 1: What is Assertiveness?

Foundational guide on identifying assertive vs. passive and aggressive communication styles.

6 pages • Communication

Assert Yourself! Module 2: Recognising Assertive Behaviour

Clinical analysis of verbal and non-verbal characteristics that define healthy communication.

7 pages • Communication

Assert Yourself! Module 4: How to Behave More Assertively

Practical techniques for "I" statements, empathetic assertion, and discrepancy assertion.

9 pages • Communication

Communication and Relationship Building Guide

MGH guide focusing on active listening, empathy, and creative relationship-building exercises.

2 pages • Relationship Building

Healthy Relationships Toolkit for Teens

Guide for younger couples focusing on boundaries, digital communication, and "green flags."

15 pages • Emotional Connection

Listening vs. Doing: ADHD Focus Guide

Timer-based exercise for partners where ADHD impacts focused attention.

2 pages • Communication

Sensate Focus: Step-by-Step Guide

Cornell University's protocol for non-genital and genital touching exercises.

2 pages • Sex Therapy

Intimacy After Medical Treatment

Guidance on re-defining intimacy and using Sensate Focus after cancer.

2 pages • Intimacy

Sexual Health for Women: Clinical Handout

Information on vaginal health, pelvic floor exercises, and mindfulness-based therapy.

4 pages • Sex Therapy

Sensate Focus I: Caress Exercises

Structured homework for couples to improve sexual enjoyment through experimental touch.

4 pages • Intimacy

Common Sexual Dysfunctions Handout

UNMC guide on treating ED, PE, and arousal disorders through behavioral techniques.

12 pages • Sex Therapy

Sexual Well-Being & Positive Psychology

UPenn capstone on sexual integration, flourishing, and alignment with values.

100+ pages • Psychology

APA CE: Mindfulness-Based Sex Therapy

Continuing education article on mindfulness for arousal and desire problems.

35 pages • Sex Therapy

Sensate Focus: Theoretical Background

Detailed explanation of the "fear-spectatoring-failure-fear" cycle in sex therapy.

5 pages • Intimacy

Conflict Resolution Worksheet

TCU's structured guide for defining problems and brainstorming joint solutions.

1 page • Conflict Resolution

Dreams Within Conflict: Listener Guide

Exercise to uncover the underlying dreams behind "gridlocked" arguments.

Time Out Plan for De-escalation

Safety tool for partners to step away during high-conflict moments.

Relationship Worksheet: Argument Analysis

CBT worksheet for tracking triggers, emotions, and thoughts during conflict.

Accepting Influence: Island Survival Game

Collaborative game to test a couple's ability to share power and decision-making.

Solving the Solvable Problems Model

Gottman's 5-step model including repair attempts and self-soothing.

Negotiating Priorities: Financial Conflict

Activity for prioritizing money-related goals to avoid gridlock.

Trauma and Attachment Worksheet

Providence Health guide for identifying triggers and attachment-related "fawn" reactions.

2 pages • Attachment

ACT with Love: Complete Worksheets

Extensive workbook based on Dr. Russ Harris's ACT model for managing relational pain.

40+ pages • ACT

Boundary Exploration Activity

Worksheet for identifying porous, rigid, and healthy boundaries in relationships.

2 pages • Psychology

Adult Attachment & EFT Workshop

Review of EFT framework for building secure bonds in distressed couples.

45 pages • Attachment

Beyond Control: Relationship Difficulty

CBT worksheet for accepting situations with little control, like break-ups.

1 page • Psychology

Attachment Style Applied to God

Unique guide exploring how IWMs influence spiritual and interpersonal relationships.

5 pages • Psychology

ACT for Couples: Assessing Craving

Workshop worksheets on mindful observation and values-based choice.

20+ pages • ACT

Self-Soothing in Times of Distress

A comprehensive list of sensory activities for emotional regulation.

13 pages • Psychology

The School of Life: The Couples Workbook

Essays and prompts on navigating the unedited reality of love and ambivalence.

12 pages • Workbook

UShine Healthy Habits Guide & Journal

Holistic 12-chapter guide for physical, emotional, social, and spiritual well-being.

35 pages • Workbook

CCC Couple Discussion Guide

Catholic Charities guide for spiritual growth and marital communication.

12 pages • Workbook

Humanness Solidarity Toolkit

A toolkit for empowering young people and building trust in community relationships.

40 pages • Workbook

Integral Psychology Couples Workbook

A series of assessments and exercises based on Gottman's "7 Principles."

25 pages • Workbook

Time Out! For Men: Sexuality Workshop

Counselor-led manual for men on communication, self-esteem, and sexuality.

100+ pages • Workbook

The Relationship Wheel Assessment

A visual tool for rating satisfaction across eight indicators of relationship health.

1 page • Assessment

Coping Skills Log for Arguments

Therapist Aid diary for tracking thought defusion and emotional intensity post-conflict.

1 page • Psychology

Relationship Assessment Prompt Sheet

Checklist for identifying underlying problems like low self-esteem or trauma.

2 pages • Assessment